Me and my little, cuddly wolfpack

New Year update...

2012-01-02T21:30:00.002-05:00

Christmas was very good - My parents came over for the big day, we all (all) went to PCF the night before for Christmas Eve service. For me, I was blessed that S. was most pleased with his gift choices. The infrared goggles we got for D. and N. worked, they were quite cool. I got a WD Live (TV internet device) fairly cool.

Spent yesterday evening with the in-laws, Kay's First Day as a retired person. I recommended she grab my RV and move to Vacation Village with my Tampa friends...

S. with Troop 3, and D. and I (with Troop 4) will be going to Vally Forge with the Scouts. C. and N. and Cousin Tommy will come out for the day - It's in mid February.

Power Returns

2011-11-05T23:41:00.000-04:00

Have a stack of branches in the front yard the size of the Truck, and in the back yard, twice as big. But after a week - the power is back on at our house. That big wire that runs past the house to the pole next to the garage held the pole on the corner of Munson St. up. The top was snapped, and it pulled the top of our mast loose. We spent a week of no school (or college) and my new office got power and opened Wed. Spent our days feeding the fireplace, and going out in the evening to the RV for some warmth, and a movie or some cards. C. had enough by Wed night though - and when my in-laws house had their power restored - we went there. She was happy to be with her Mom, watching TV and sitting around the table after dinner.

This morning, as I drove by to get my car at my house (their driveway is kind of small) - I notice the pole on Munson had a 2x4 on top and the lead to my house was back tight again. They'll need to replace the pole, but they bought some time.

The town will pick up the downed branches on/after Nov. 21 - so we need to move the big pile out to the front yard. Need to get raking as well. And figure out if CL&P will reattach my mast ...

C. and N. are at the Battleship (USS Massachusetts). I've been 3 or 4 times and with the chance to earn back a benefit day (otherwise Mon/Tues would have cost me two vacation days) - the perils of working for a small company. D. ran off to JP's to talk minecraft...and S. is off Bowling. He worked most of the week as well (His mgr seems to no when College is cancelled, and expects Steve every time). He's enjoying TUConn - and having a car. Was signing up for next semester already, how quickly the new and scary becomes old hat.

the year Halloween got eaten by Christmas

2011-11-01T20:39:00.000-04:00

So we've been weathering, the weather. A surprise snowstorm blanketed the Northeast, and since our trees still had leaves, they held most of the snow - and snapped the branches...We still have no power, or phone, or cable/internet. Keeping a fire burning in the fireplace, and spending dinners in the RV. We've been stacking branches, and getting the camper out to refill the gas tank today. D. and N. have no school until Friday - and my new job has been without power as well.

And Afterword...

2011-10-23T20:31:00.002-04:00

The Webeloree is over - we got to camp in People's State Forest, at Mattias Grove - It was a chilly weekend, and we were at the South end of the park, with the Boy Scouts were at the other - It was a 500 pace walk back and forth. Pin's went well - and the water bottle rocket launchers were a Huge Success! The Boy Scouts had a Big Potluck - food was very good, and the Campfire was good as well. My favorite skit was performed, Banana/Bandana.

It was neat to be back leading a Scout function. Felt ok, but I am out of practice for camping.

Webeloree

2011-10-20T21:07:00.001-04:00

Webeloree and Camporee Weekend - will setup tomorrow night @ Peoples Forest, and other than the madness of registration, I'm looking forward to it. Patches arrived today, the camper is packed (to serve as HQ).
Work is going well - I continue to adjust to working home. It's not the home part - it's the permanent job part. I still think about the short term contractor mentality of needing to be immediately useful, to provide value. Tough to unlearn, trusting the "deal" that there is an understanding of all the things I have to master. It is a very different environment, very non-corporate.

Eagle Weekend

2011-10-16T22:53:00.000-04:00

Steve's Eagle Ceremony was Saturday at Bakerville Methodist. It was good, I enjoyed the irony of Steve's big day being in Church, and having cake. Dawn made a cool Merit Badge cake - and Troop 3 did their usual nice job.
Got my haircut at Cutting Corner on my way to Church on Sat. little things do make me feel like I'm home it was good to see Cindy B. and catch up about Bakerville.
Have been going to PCF for a few weeks, Dave goes to youth group, and Nate to Sunday School. Pastor Ryan has been very good, It's nice to hear sincere, solid preaching.
Aventura went well - Dave did great, and it was odd to be back doing the skit with Amanda, and singing the special music. Playing the opening/closing with Chris R. and Judy was really nice as well.

Working on the Webeloree for next weekend at Peoples Forest - Water Bottle launchers are here and tested, camper is ready as emergency vehicle...Of course at our stage of life - Steve will not be there until after his Sat. work - and Dave is triple booked...

N. Starting Fall Soccer

2011-09-10T12:57:00.000-04:00

Team is completely different, his buddies must have moved on to Travel. Good Coach.

New Job - Starting...

2011-09-05T21:44:00.000-04:00

Altek Electronics - IT Generalist, off Kennedy Drive opposite the Scout Office. New phase of life.

N. Birthday

2011-09-04T22:11:00.000-04:00

That is all!

New Job

2011-08-29T16:58:00.000-04:00

Starting next Tuesday, I will be working in Torrington as the IT Generalist - for an unnamed electronics firm. Will need to get network certified soon, and then SQL certified, then who knows.

So how do I step back into a life I left 5 years ago - I was asked to prayerfully consider being on team this fall, and will go to Roundtable tonight. Is our church still the place for us? And what about the rest of the changes we go through, S. starts college tomorrow - D. is probably SPL this fall and his practice rollo went very well. N - is adjusting to "the rules" coming back.

It may be a huge adjustment income-wise but we'll see.

Home.

Great News...

2011-08-26T20:18:00.000-04:00

That local company finished their interviews - and FINALLY called me today, I was beginning to doubt I'd ever be able to work at home. I go in Monday (assuming the building is still standing) to discuss an offer...Am reading up on MS Access and SQL Express now. Job looks very, very doable - a few more days of worry, and I will be able to say I'm home.

I wonder what life adjustments are in store for me and mine - when we're all home.

Praise God...

Goodbyes...

2011-08-21T17:11:00.000-04:00

Made it to church this morning, felt unconnected - worship music, sermon...ehh - Pastor had us come up to pray for Kevin and his family as they go tomorrow. At that moment I felt for Cami - the unrelenting tide of goodbyes, the reality that the next family event we all gather for could be a marriage, since it will be 5 years.
The church picnic was about 30 odd people - at Linda Hull's down in the valley below town hill in New Hartford, beautiful day at the beginning - with thunderclouds rolling in as we took off toKevin do our round of Frisbee golf in Bristol. We got in about four holes (baskets?) and it started pouring as well. Oh, well - off to Woods Pit for BBQ with our exchange students...

Traveling mercies to my brother Kevin and his family as they return home to Moz - and to Tituane and Karatine as they return to France. Keep the bright and sunny Jody in your prayers tomorrow, as she's having a melanoma removed. Her calling makes it hard to hide from the sun, Afganistan, and now the UAE....

Home!

2011-08-18T22:55:00.001-04:00

Been home a week now - It's been generally great. S.'s graduation party went off without a hitch. Working on the car, since I never get the chance when it (and I) are out of town on a contract.

Had second interview with the local company, and it went great, I think! Hope to hear something wonderful next week...If not the I will interview for contracts in Delaware, and maybe Houston or Minnesota.

Will celebrate Kevin's birthday this weekend. D. starts Aventura team meetings tomorrow. Our Exchange students leave for home Monday, as does Kevin and his family - they return to Moz. for another 4-5 years. It's been great having them here for the last year...

Will have a series of hard, but great adjustments if I'm home for good - and S. is looking for a decent first car - any leads?

Home for the weekend.

2011-07-29T17:35:00.000-04:00

Had a good interview with a small electronics company (here in town!). Think it went well, hopeful for a second interview. And when I came home - my headhunter called, and my three month extension had been rejected by corporate. So I am not staying in Colorado into November, I will be driving home next week. Quite a shock, I had been offered the extension a week and a half ago, and it seemed a done deal.

Update

2011-07-22T00:42:00.000-04:00

Was home last weekend - Took Umpa out on the Farmington River Sunday afternoon. Picked up D. at Camp Workcoeman after a week of CIT, Kevin came back from Ohio, S. and I had N. in my canoe - I dislocated my left pinky as I put the canoe in the water, a little freaky but it snapped back in to place. Later, someone in my canoe was snapping branches back at me and I leaned over and feel out. My youngest, who shall remain nameless, was a bit panicked when the canoe and he left me behind in the water. But it was a good trip - nobody else got hurt, it was a good day.

D. is back at CW, this time with Troop 4, and he'll hear tomorrow if he is invited back to be staff. S. is STILL looking for work, and half-heartedly looking for a car to drive to college.

Was offered the extension here in Colorado for another 3 months, with the possibility of a total of 2 years. That would the duration of getting rid of the Tandem here (Like NASDAQ, and Kohls)...I asked for the ability to work remotely as well (1/2 time) since they have others who do - but was turned down. This is too far away, and too much to fly home - I will look for tickets for 8/11 tomorrow. S. graduation party is that weekend.

Kevin wrote today as well - they're planning to go to Saranac, one of my favorite campsites on an island on Dog pond. But it is scheduled for Monday - Thursday before I get back. Hopefully the boys can go with Umpa, depending on their WORK schedules.

Three weeks 'til I get home, the disappointment of today brought it home early.

Almost July

2011-06-25T17:03:00.000-04:00

1) Boys Birthday was great - if not handled with the parade and hoopla I expected. I think C. is burning out - The (single) parenting, the picking your spots, is leading to picking less spots. I asked about S. and D's friend parties and got a blank stare - Had the grand parents over, and that was it.
2) C. Birthday was (missed by me) 10 days later but I had sent presents ahead - and the boys worked it out.
3) The roof on the garage got done - Umpa was a big help, we actually got a building permit! S. was great, picked thinks up as we went - It was so amazing to see the difference from the fall when we tarped the leaky side, to jumping around with the nail gun and a bundle of shingles. D. was great whenever he got in gear - and N. was fun, and a 9yo worth of help.
4) Came home for Graduation for S. two weeks later. The Warner is pretty but seems to be too small for that many grads families, but it is cool to walk around main st. afterword with it blocked off. S. came though with tix for both sets of GP's. Again I expected parties and hangin' out for the grad's but I guess it gets short circuited by project graduation.
5) Tried to fly back to work Monday afternoon - and was told I wouldn't make my connection, and was re-scheduled for Tuesday afternoon. Bonus night at home! Tuesday evening I got to Midway Chicago - and all flights west were cancelled - spent two hours in line, was told no housing was available and the best flight I found (by calling Southwest in line) was 6pm Wednesday. This airport has no free wifi or outlets. So I spent the next two hours looking for a room - Booked a room through Kayak and expedia, and called for a shuttle and they said they had no rooms! Called Expedia and they made it right - found a slightly skeevy hotel with a nice bed, and a shuttle. Discovered Village Inn and Bakers Square are the same restaurant the next morning. Spent the afternoon at the airport eating Chicago Mix and thinking of my Target friends... Never did receive a call from SW about either issue, so we need to have a talk. Really wish US Air or Delta had competitive rates to/from Denver.
6) That of course meant I only worked two days this week. But we should be ok.
7) Kevin and Cami have postponed their return to Moz. until August - He had talked of coming out to see me and Roy, possibly with Umpa. I think those resources have been used up though. Maybe the canoeing is back on though, I've heard nothing so far, though.
8) Work is busy, and I'm still scheduled through August, first week.
9) I have flights home for this weekend! And for Two weeks later (Umpa's Birthday).

One more week - until home.

2011-05-08T16:44:00.000-04:00

It's Mothers Day today - And I've failed to be there for them. But next weekend is Birthday weekend! Steve's and Dave's. We'll also work on the Camper and setup for the roofing of the Big Garage, It really needs it. I can't wait, because of the dates of Easter - I went three weeks prior to it, and this is also a three week stretch.

Drove up into the Mountains yesterday, Boulder to Lyons, to Estes Park (artsy village, absolutely packed with shoppers) to Nederland (old mining, artsy town) Outside the mining museum was a digger, that had built the panama canal and looked like the this: Mike Mulligan and his steam shovel. Then I took the Boulder canyon road back down, out of the hills. I forgot my camera - so these are with my phone, and yes those where Elk downtown in Estes Park..

Another of the consultants at work had here last day Friday, not sure of the circumstances. As it stands, I'm there through July. The third person from my consulting company's last day is this Friday, but his gig was three months, so not a huge surprise.

A long weekend...

2011-04-18T00:20:00.000-04:00

One more workweek and I get to go home for Easter. S. is at Gettysburg for what I think is his last Scout trip as a Boy - D. passed his Star BOR, should have been there for both.

Need to firm up the plan for the roofing, along with the multitude of parties over May and June. Walked around on the the Red Rocks Trails again - Mile and a half, and it kicks my but - I've decided hiking should not include stairs. I hoped it would have gotten greener - not so much yet.

A long stretch

2011-04-09T13:58:00.000-04:00

Not going home until Easter - So 2 weekends and 3 weeks here.

It would have been my Nanna's birthdays this week.

And that Job, at Ct Rivers Council? To Cub Scout Camp/Cub Scout Program Director? I called to see if they had everything they needed - and was told it had already been filled internally. Spent 2 weeks trying not to get too excited, or my hopes up - problem solved.

Motorcycle is for sale- need one? Trying to work with Umpa to be prepared to do roof of garage, maybe memorial weekend.

Want to borrow the RV? Kevin has it booked for the end of June, and Cindy and the guys are supposed to come out end of July/beginning of August.

Approaching April fools....

2011-03-28T23:41:00.000-04:00

1 - The job is available, the one in Scouts I've always wanted - in the past we've talked about being the local District Executive, which would be great. But now it's the guy I used to report to for Cub Camps - he does Cub programs and Cub camps! And I got a call that "I'd be a good fit" and send them a resume to talk over...

2 - Steve's Eagle project is moving along - and Joe B. got his Eagle Sunday!

3 - Home this weekend!

4 - Scheduling my trips home for April and May - The latter will be a busy month, and we'd like to schedule the repairs of the Garage (and demolish the other garage).

Almost St. Patricks

2011-03-13T22:26:00.000-04:00

1) Happy Birthday to Great Nanna and Great Aunt Ethel - 124 years ago.
2) Home next weekend - But arriving very late Friday night/Saturday morning - and leaving early Monday.
3) S. got his acceptance letter from UCONN, his first choice - Funding is still a matter of prayer.
4) Taxes done.

a snowy weekend in Col.

2011-02-26T00:11:00.000-05:00

One more weekend in Col. - Going home next weekend, Thursday night through Monday afternoon. Work is going very well - lots of coding to do, but it is very similar to much of the work I did with RJ (surprise, since RJ owns a copy of the same code). Very busy days - but a lonely time. I think the Mazda needs struts all the way around - but it will have to wait a while. The Durango back home has issues as well - I think it's a sensor problem, but it had to wait until my first check from this job shows up. Oh, well.....

Presidents Day

2011-02-20T18:01:00.000-05:00

So, I've worked two weeks at my new job - and moved to the closer Extended Stay Hotel. Work has no Cafe, so it's cheaper, since I brought in some bagels, and Oatmeal. Place is smaller than I thought it'd be, probably only 40 or so people in the office. One of the consultants they brought on board was a RJ briefly while I was there. We figured out that one of the contractors that they've had for a while had worked at NASDAQ for Swiggy. And the Sungard lady met Santino for lunch prior to leaving for Denver. The world gets smaller. It's still a bit too big for me.

Went to church with Ben and Genny Fullerton (and her sister Adriane) last night. It was about 25 minutes north at http://www.flatironschurch.com/ - It was pretty loud and I didn't recognize the worship music - but it was very well performed. The young pastor was very good - but was a subject I didn't want to hear - they are covering Jonah - and if there is one thing I do NOT want to hear about - That God would send someone away, to save an unappreciative and unhelpful people.

S. is awaiting word from UCONN, and C. her PRAXIS results. N. is playing Hoop this year, and placed 2nd in the pinewood derby. D. and S. are working backstage in a High School production. Was home last week - Bunga flew me home, since Kevin was back from Hawaii, and Tuan had driven to Ct. so we could see the twins, Abby and Hailey. Pictures were taken, at church. We visited the Torrington Fall Festival, and the Men went bowling that night - It was fun, and once we got there we realized Umpa wasn't particuarly equipped for bowling anymore either.

I can't afford to be home again until 3/3 - 3/7 - by then the new paychecks will appear, and it will be a little easier.

Stage V - another first day

2011-02-07T22:42:00.000-05:00

Went to the new job today - was surprised (an ridiculously flattered) to have a real cube, not sharing one, or sitting in a hutch by a window. It's 11 miles from the hotel to the office but takes 1/2 an hour to drive it. I need to look around for a cheaper, closer housing.

Yet another snowstorm tomorrow has C. worried about me driving her to the airport.

I heard that someone who hadn't worked out at my previous job was going to start here, and was concerned...Hopefully he won't turn up. Everyone I met new Joe B. (who is now at RJ) and some knew Bill S. (and nodded knowingly when I said "What a character" ). Work is doable... Can't tell you how much I dread beginning again, being alone again. And the time change is going to mess with me every time I go home.

Stage IVb - Trip redux

2011-02-07T22:29:00.000-05:00

The rest of the trip was less eventful - We went from Pa. to the other side of St. Louis, Mo. And the next night was from there to Burlington, Co. As we realized we couldn't make Denver that night. Then we climbed from there to the Extended Stay Suites in Lakewood. And watched the Super Bowl from an area Buffalo Wild Wings - It was not as good as going to the one in Clearwater.

Stage IVa - Trip Redux

2011-02-07T22:22:00.000-05:00

So after finally finding (1) one snow tire, and an oil change, emissions test and front brakes (calipers and rotors) - we were finally off at 9am. We made it to the Litchfield exit off of Rte. 8 - car wouldn't go above 50 miles an hour, ice chunks stuck in the wheel wells - we went back to town so it could fall out and then took off again for the West. Made it through NY and into Pa. passing Matamoros and climbing when I watched the tractor trailer in front of me bounce as it passed over the edge of a bridge - the car didn't bounce - it bent the front left rim and bubbled the (new) rear tire. Spent the next 4 hours slowly driving through the hills of western Pa. a Tire store fixed the spare and had an all season tire. But I was still down a wheel...I hit about 4 more shops before calling Kelly Mazda - who said "We might have one of those in the basement." I'm always fans of stores that have basements, or "stuff out back." They had a steel rim, and went out to a neighborhood tire shop for another tire after 4pm - and paired up the remaining snows on the front. On the road, for less than $200! We made it to Clarion, Pa. first night about 3-4 hours off our original estimate.

Stage III - off to Colorado.

2011-02-02T20:35:00.001-05:00

Tomorrow morning (amid at 2 hour delay for Torrington Schools) we shove off for Colorado. We have morning coverage to get N. off to school - and the guys are watching the Super Bowl at Grandma's. Saturday is the Winter Festival, so they will be at First Congregational for a while.

We will drive straight to Wheat Ridge, Col. for me to start my new contract Monday morning. A Strange thing happened earlier this week a local headhunter called with a contract here in Windsor. It was to be a business analyst for the system I was responsible for at NASDAQ for all those years, ACES. I was the Subject Matter Expert for years - even now, they've migrated the application from Tandem to Java based PC clusters. It is just a contract at this point, so I had to go with my word to the job with an opportunity.

Stage IIa - In Ct.

2011-01-31T21:43:00.000-05:00

1 - Car now has replaced the missing snow tire, and has four on it. An oil change, emissions test and front end alignment later - it is as ready as ever for rolling to Colorado on Thursday.
2 - Having weather concerns now - as we try to drive the 30 hours from Thursday morning to Saturday night. So I can start work Monday morning.
3 - Prayers for the Boys while Mom is driving with me - We have the same N. morning coverage as last time...but still, it's a worry.

Stage II - In Ct.

2011-01-30T22:08:00.000-05:00

Umpa flew down to join me for the RV ride back to Ct. - We mounted the car on the Dolly, prep the RV and hit the road. We make out about an hour - then someone drove by and made frantic hand motions, we'd blown one of the tires on the dolly. We stopped and I dismounted the car - and drove on to the next exit. There was a Wal-Mart in front of a big RV park. They had a big automotive section with a whole section of Trailer tires - but they were a full size bigger than the blown one. So I bought 2 - on rims and went back. Amazingly it only took 45 minutes to be back on the road. We made it through Florida and Georgia, and stopped at a Wal-mart to sleep about midnight.. We forgot to leave the ignition or the generator on so it would run the furnace (until about 3am) so it was chilly . Up at 8, check the dolly, winter treated the water system and off we went. Turns out we passed pretty close to West End (Hi, Uncle Ronnie, Hi Aunt Joanie) - and then on to DC (Hi, Aunt Dawn) and made it into New Jersey. Found another Wal-mart - ran the generator and Furnace for the night - and was home in Ct by 12:30.

All is well - but snow is deep. N. is upset I am stealing Mom away for Stage III. Pastor Darr has allowed me to stash the Camper in the Church lot for a few days, until the driveway improves. Still need to get a snow tire for the Mazda - They are an odd size and don't seem to be carried any more.

Nervous - hate making yet another fresh start and first impression. And realizing the I'll be even further away, the time changes (and altitude) will drive that home.

And there are always extra expenses in starting up in a new place - that is stressful as well.

Stage 1 - Out of Florida

2011-01-18T23:03:00.000-05:00

Back at work in Florida (with the 50 and 60 degree weather). Busy, wrapping up my work. Need to get the RV out on the road - which means packing up the various hoses and wires and disassembling the Direct TV. Then a road test and oil change. The car also needs an oil change, and the brakes from Mieneke need replacing again.

More to Follow...

MLK Update

2011-01-13T22:26:00.000-05:00

So the offer to contract in Florida took a while, and I got an offer for the job in Colorado - It is a contract to hire, and the rate is significantly higher than my current contract or the other Florida contract. I ended up taking it. So I need to work out how to get there - with a car with snow tires, and the camper stored somewhere. By 2/7.

MLK

2011-01-10T22:49:00.000-05:00

Flying home this weekend.
Concerning work: Still done with RJ end of month. Have contract in hand for job at JPMorgan Chase, across the bay in Brandon. Job looks ok - but Contract Firm says they don't offer a straight per diem. This is a huge deal as it impacted my taxable income, and would result in actually less money than the stated rate. Had second interview with a company in Colorado - they have some contract to permanent positions available, and would pay substantially more. And are through the same contract firm I work through today. We'll see how these play out - I hate this stuff. Neither job gets me home, or even in New England - But I need to buy the ramen and pay the cable bill. I am so frustrated by the attitudes back home, working so hard not to be as angry when I get home.

New Year, New News...

2011-01-04T23:17:00.000-05:00

1- It was a great blessing to be home for the whole of Christmas week, and once the rush of arrival past, there were vivid reminders of broken dynamics within the family...Of discipline, of teamwork, of normalcy...Chasing down young men and their needful.
2- Told RayJay my last day will be 1/28 - and I will start my new contract at JP Morgan Chase the next week. I will need to move from Vacation Village in Largo to an RV park closer to Brandon (on the other side of Tampa, near the state fairgrounds).

Quick one

2010-12-23T14:45:00.000-05:00

Home today/tonight for the next 10 days! Christmas is waiting for me. Working from Ct. next week. Call me, remind me that I am connected/remembered/missed in Ct. The family is home, but I left in '07 and still don't feel I returned.

Home Mid-month..

2010-12-04T23:02:00.000-05:00

Am suprisingly going home this weekend 12/10 - 12/13...Christmas tree shopping I assume. More ardently looking for jobs - Eh, more are showing up. Never heard back on the Hospital in Bridgeport. Have interview for US Foods in Ill. and a call back to a contract (work from home).

Work was very good, but my mood continues to sour. Been thinking about a friend from church that has left his wife and seemingly regressed - As if he has voluntarily given up so many of the things that break my heart to be without. Family, his wife, his church life...hmmm

Thanksgiving...

2010-11-14T15:40:00.000-05:00

Finally went to talk to my boss - and will be working from home for Thanksgiving and Christmas! It will be the longest I've been with the family since before I went to Kohls. Was told firmly that this extension is my last, done the end of February. It's been a long stretch, going from Halloween to the 20th. But it's winter and the oil plan started up... I was noticeably crankier than normal last week, I suppose it's a larger response to why I have trouble getting to sleep - a lack of hope, of short term goals to look forward to. Have a few leads for more work - one permanent in Ct. which would be awesome. Can't worry too much about the next gig, when I'm neck deep in this one - plenty of work for the next month or so - then only sort of busy.

Whatever - the loneliness is killing me, along with the sense of letting my minions down - They need goals, boundaries and rewards, and I sometimes think it all pizza rolls and TV remotes. The big one cannot grasp how much time is pouring through his fingers - College apps, College visits, Eagle project stuff, MB stuff - and the experience of getting a job, having some money, and a boss.

Back in Florida

2010-10-20T23:12:00.000-04:00

It was a great time home - And I'll be back in just 8 days. Next time is D. to a Aventura reunion (first since 96?), and then take S. to tour CCSU (first time there since 89?). The hurt of leaving doesn't fade, though. I find the simple things that I don't get to, and the things that only I can do bother me a lot. The fact is Umpa and Kevin do help me out, and cover me at home...By the way the trailer is immaculate.

But of all the feelings, the since that my life has been torn down, that little is left of it. As I pack, I hear "I'm going in to spend two days this week with N's class" - and news about both the potential filling that DE spot, and changes to day camp...And how is BUMC? Outside my home, and inside my home, things seem to work poorly..

Today brought new work - which is always a little stressful, but it's better than the alternative.

Camporee

2010-10-17T21:54:00.000-04:00

Spent last night at Bridgewater Fairgrounds for the fall District Camporee - N. has been waiting for years to sleep over with the big kids...They built catapults and shot tennis balls back and forth at each other, S. and C. taught Webelo Pins. It was neat to see so many familiar faces, around all the different units - It is odd to be attached to two units now - Troop 3, the one S. is in and Troop 4, where D. has rediscovered his enjoyment of Scouting (and for dinner they had ham! So they are winners in my book). It was frosty and cold last night though. There was enough frost to make snowballs in camp this morning. Shot over to the Pack 3 Penny Auction this evening, looks well run, well attended and hopefully profitable. Tomorrow is a Doctor visit and a visit to Bunga and Umpa's.

21

2010-10-14T22:20:00.000-04:00

Happy Anniversary, missed it again. But I'll be home this weekend, and camping Sat. night at the Camporee/Webeloree.

Cindy Week, Part IV

2010-10-14T22:18:00.000-04:00

Monday morning, after being up ridculiously early to watch us dock, Cindy came back to our room. We had breakfast on the Lido deck, and then joined the big line to exit. We waited in line, and dribbled out of the ship. The second biggest blessing of the day (after having Cindy around) was next - we got to the the best closest spot in the parking garage, and found I owed even less than I had planned for! After all the rushing to get there and parking in the short term garage, it was like $55, rather than the at least $70 I expected.

I went to work for noonish, and Cindy cooked Pork chops, on the grounds that no one at the house in CT. wanted to eat it. It was good, my dishes got magically washed, and the laundry as well. Tuesday, she went off to Orlando to see a friend from her "It's good to be the Queen" website. For dinner we went off to BWW to play Trivia with Anthony from work...Wednesday, my birthday was not hugely depressing since she was still around - we went to Joe's crab shack, and DQ.

Thursday, I took her back to the Airport.

Cindy Week, Part III - Cozumel

2010-10-10T23:29:00.000-04:00

So Saturday was our excursion - which for my money started rather early, 8am. We were to walk off the boat, to another ferry which would take us to the mainland, to a bus which would take us to Tulum - a oceanside Mayan ruin. Was annoyed by another nickel and dime "water for sale" station on the boat. Everyone there sells bottled water. It ride was uneventful - the shore side town was a bunch of new condo's, then your average poorer scenery. The guide really knew his stuff, first stop was a new concrete building were they sold obsidian (which was the topic of the guide at that point). Then we went off to the national park, with a bunch of single story flea market layout in front, and a mile walk up to the gate of the park itself. It was cool - that guide was sharp - and understood his audience.

Over there? There's a fish?

Someone really wanted to say we'd been in the Caribbean, even though the reality of our glasses had precluded us going snorkeling.

We did some shopping there, and being dehydrated had the most potent margerita EVER! And $2 corona's - the ride was a bit blurry, but it passed and we shopped more at the duty free mall.

C.'s favorite part of the cruise was this, every day:

Cindy Week, Part II

2010-10-10T16:18:00.000-04:00

So - The funniest thing that happened was a case of us reverting to our regular roles in life. We were walking to lunch and got separated, and I ended up way in the front of the ship - So I figured she would turn up either at our destination, the Lido dining room, or out by the pool, at the table where we had sat previously. It must have been 10 minutes of wandering around - and we found each other by the pool, and someone proceeded to yell (speak loudly) that one of us had been "lost" - It reminded me that 1) I'm really used to being alone, and 2) that someone doesn't deal with peers and equals very often. I finally said we could put this behind us and have lunch, or we'd have to come back here later for some people to apologize. It was better to be reminded early, than on our excursion. It does take some practice to just be a couple - as opposed to a repairer, and part time disciplinarian. That first dinner, one of our wait staff came buy and offered to sell us a bottle of water (a simple liter) - we figured it was cheaper that soda, and even if you brought wine they charged a $10 opening charge. Every dinner there after, some came by an filled our water glasses, for free. Penny ante BS. The appetizers were good, the entree's, were more up and down, never bad but some were better than others. I was surprised the had a part of thier menu was entree's for an additional $18 each.

On the ship we watched Denver television channels - but no ESPN (other than the Mexican one, F1 racing and soccer). It was odd - and internet access was as tenuous as you'd expect, and Cell phone service had a surcharge tacked onto every call.
Next is our day in "Stinky Air" - Tulum....

Cindy Week

2010-10-09T23:30:00.000-04:00

1) Now we know, to get my wife to visit requires several hundred dollars, and a cruise.
2) I scheduled her flight to land Thursday at 2:30, with the cruise leaving at 4pm. I just ordered them right after I confirmed the cruise, and that it was something C. wanted to do. Waiting for her plane to land was probably the worst hour I've spent since I was at Kohls. I dreaded telling her there was nothing we could do to get across town to the pier. I called the cruise line, and she arrived at 3:10 (10 minutes) early. We waited though the whole luggage cycle, then they paged her, that hers had arrived early. So I drove as a Zwart men are capable, real aggressive even for me. And arrived at the port authority at 4:01 - and the boat was still there!!! We spoke to the 4 or 5 Customs agents/cops and asked if they could get us on that ship - they called upstairs and after a tense moment told me leave her and the luggage, and that I should drive over to short term parking (closer than long term, which was $14 a day). Got the absolute bast possible spot and jogged back. Made it, with the niggling doubt that it would cost even more than $14 a day...
3) So I laid very still for a while - since I'd jogged 50 feet. And I need to let the dread and fear fade away. We were very blessed that two separate friends had purchased gifts that were in the room as we arrived. We wandered around and repurchased our excursion, since the one we had selected had vanished. We took pictures and went up on the foredeck (minigolf!) to watch as we passed under the Sunshine skway bridge - which supposedly we miss by 12 feet.

More to follow....

The RV

2010-10-09T21:25:00.002-04:00

is still for sale - this time in Fl. I'm living in it, and it saves me a good bit of money every month - but at some point, I will be home again and it would be nice to liquidate it. No rush - everything works and "savings the money" works for me --- http://tampa.craigslist.org/pnl/rvs/1967687464.html

Work Related.

2010-10-09T20:23:00.000-04:00

Another work extension was granted the other day. I will be here through end of February, as it stands now. I would be eligible for one more after that, until May (making a total of 18 months, which is corporate policy). Work is about as good as it gets - better than anywhere I've worked since NASDAQ (It's amazing that I miss that place even now).

Birthday was fine - 44 pretty much a non event. It was good to have Cindy here in Fl. (post cruise) to celebrate with me, we went to Joe's Crab Shack, and DQ. Because that's the kind of guy I am.

Anniversary is next week, Think it mostly got celebrated on the boat.

Got the rear wiper motor back, and put on the car today. It broke as Umpa and I pulled out of Wisc.

Home next weekend - haven't seen my boys in a month. Cindy was lonely after 4 days...I know I don't love them less - but - Is that yet another thing I've lost in the 18 months I've been away? The end of this extension will make it two years exactly since I moved (to Wisconsin) away to support them. For those that like math, I will have missed over 20% of N.'s life.

Happy Birthday, Nate!

2010-09-05T12:54:00.000-04:00

New Family Members...

2010-09-01T23:40:00.001-04:00

Bunga and a new grandbaby (Tuan's)!

-Tuan N Duong- Is so BLESSED. Our twins are so strong and totally adorable. Here is the lowdown.
Olivia Ann Duong born @3:20 8-31-10 4lbs 14 oz 19.2" long.
Evan Diep Duong born @3:25 8-31-10 4lbs 12 oz 18.6" long.

Mother and Big Sister are well as well...Bunga is out there in Ohio.

This week in Fl.

2010-08-29T23:31:00.000-04:00

This week is about things under tension:

Work, let a consultant go who wasn't busy, and didn't look busy. And the intern, (a guy my age learning a new skill set) is probably done this week - which isn't fun to sit near either. Spoke to my RM (as opposed to my PM) who said that my next extension (from 12mo - 16mo) is not a slam dunk, since it requires more signoff.

I am pretty lonely as well - so my heart is momentarily thrilled by the prospect of this door closing. Then the fear of not supporting the oblivious family, of failure, of losing...

I was also pressed on my schedule for Christmas/Thanksgiving. I said that either way I'd be home for Thanksgiving, I'd miss very little work with the shop closed (assuming I'm still there). But Christmas - How can I know anything. It would be all workdays this time - I'd see them for like 4 out of 10 days, and I'd be back in Fl. for new years alone...

So at the end of the week - we don't know any more, we're just 10% less sure of this opportunity. Prayers and open windows/doors are needed.

I go home this Friday - N. Birthday!!!!

A Week of Company

2010-08-12T22:27:00.000-04:00

S. arrived in Sarasota. He'll spend the week here, finally has an idea of what he wants to do - You'll see it on FB. We return to Ct. next Thursday. Feels very different, better.

Vacation! Day Two and Three

2010-08-12T21:37:00.000-04:00

The next day we hit both Jamestown and Yorktown. Both were the reenactment centers (as opposed to the battlefield/archaeological dig). That was fine. The boats at the Jamestown landing we quite small - since we compare all sailing ships to the Charles Morgan in Mystic. We ended up talking to the knot guy for quite a while - and S. did Scouts proud, handling the "can you tie this" part. Lunch at Chipolte was his reward, honestly it was his biggest priority of the week, I think. Yorktown was ok - the encampment was cool - the Surgeon guy was good - don't sample the saltpack barrel of pigs feet - it tastes awful.

The last day was a free day. S. and I did a little www.geocaching.org - found a cool one. Then we all went mingolfing - us and Uncle Van's family. Then a stint in the pool with all the kids. Then back to work on Sunday.

Vacation! Day one Jambo.

2010-08-11T23:29:00.000-04:00

Jambo was cool - I flew out of Orlando on a Wed. and arrived in Richmond, Va. and picked up an HHR. An ok car, typical underpowered rental. We hustled out of bed early the next day to go up to Jambo. After getting a late start, and a traffic accident stopping everything - we parked in the overflow lot. We queued up with hundreds of others, waiting for two school buses that only picked up from the far right end of the group - Then lightening! MP's wouldn't allow people to walk in, so we were herded back to two huge tents. At that point Scout flexibility stepped up and all available vans were conscripted, as the downpour started. It stopped just as we pulled up to Trading Post B (where Scott Hudson was SUPPOSED to be). Since we had an appointment with some of the Minn. contingent - we ate there, and got in line. We did our shopping, and spent way too much. When we didn't hook up with the Minn. guys - we started toward the Merit Badge Alley, Figuring we'd walk toward the conservation area (all the way across the camp) where DanB was. We texted him once or twice but by now there was no way to see anything and get that far without a bus (which we saw too few of). We caught up with a bunch of the Minnesota guys there, it was nice, and all to soon - it was five and time to find another bus. We went back to Dawn's timeshare (Thanks! upstairs was just right for us). End of day one.

Only one week this time...

2010-07-21T22:31:00.000-04:00

Only need to work one week until I see the family again. Going to Williamsburg next Wed. Visiting the Jamboree, and Jamestown.

Umpa is improving and my brothers family is back in Winsted.

Home

2010-07-18T22:15:00.000-04:00

Almost over again - nothing gets done. And I can't get anything done either. Now it'll be nearly a month before I come back to Torrington.

On the plus side I can fill in for Umpa, who can't drive to JFK to get Kevin and Family.

Then my flight to Tampa.

Umpa's Birthday and other stuff

2010-07-13T22:41:00.000-04:00

Consider yourself warned, It's almost here (that means Earls as well). I'll be home this weekend. Kevin and Cami return for their sabbatical as well.

My Scouting job has resurfaced again. We will be praying about it - but jeez, not with that salary, not just that. Hard not to feel a little mad, as something far away from COBOL and close to what it think I want to do and I can't do it. Because I'm the grownup...

The project at work is done, it went into production. My stuff worked. I have some new work lined up, shorter term stuff. Same company in Tampa - sort of wheels within wheels. I contract to RayJay, and work for a department that is the pool, so we get parceled out.

I also need to manage my expectations going home. I'm home so little, with so much to do, and it not getting done.

Long days here, and long nights. Oh, yeah - I was moved from my cube to a "big lots" wooden desk in a row of them in front a window on my floor. New neighbors and distractions, just as my workload lightens...A lesson is patience and forbearance.

Yea, Me!

2010-06-17T23:49:00.000-04:00

Spoke to Kev, It was good.

Umpa had back surgery - It went well, he should be home tomorrow.

Tuan and Heather having Wedding Celebration this weekend, but we can't make it.

But I will be home this weekend, and booked my tickets for the 4th as well. Three weeks between visits is WAY to long. Very emotional and down about being alone. But respite is coming.

Work has been hectic as we close in on deployment. But code looks good for install next week.

Memorial Day

2010-05-27T23:28:00.000-04:00

A big blessing - in that I am coming home AGAIN. Flying out Friday night, for a long Memorial Day weekend. BTW - A new collection agency is after the H.E. loan from the house in Minn. What a waste of resources.

Was in town last weekend for C. birthday - and figured I could come either Memorial Day or Scout Show. Rather than sleep on the ground at Hebron Fairgrounds, with T3 offsite (so I would'nt see much of them), I chose to come home now.

I cleaned up around the house in prep as well. C. family will be in town for the annual Wallyworld picnic, and N. (at least) is marching in the parade on Monday.

Bunga and Umpa were at the San Diego zoo today...

S. Prom is Friday night!

17 and 14

2010-05-18T21:41:00.002-04:00

Missed the guys birthday, couldn't get home every weekend in May. One of the guys I hang out with at work invited me out for the weekend to a cabin on lake. His Father in law owns the island - a cabin, zip line, herd of goats, some peacocks. It was cool - One of the other guys from work came as well. Sitting around a fire, boat rides, and driving the carts (like the gator at CW) all over.

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Spoke to the boys, it's not quite the same though.

Will be home this weekend - S. is in NH until Sunday. I am staying from Friday night thru Tuesday. And will make Jaimee and Mike's wedding!

And after having the taxes looked at a second time, now it's a blessing - I NEVER would have guessed I wouldn't owe a ton.

Cold in Ct.

2010-05-10T12:11:00.000-04:00

Gotta go, frost warning in Ct tonight.

Kevin's accident worked out in the best possible way. Umpa dropped of some arbor vitae's to replace the ones that died in front of the house - and had trained S. for the last two weeks on how to plant trees! We cut firewood (that tree that had been taken down on the south side) - Like basketball, I have the skills, but am carrying around two bags of feed more than when we did this in Bakerville. S. is looking for a job (he has an offer to be Kitchen staff at CW), and D. had a great time in DC with the school trip.

May Day

2010-05-05T20:37:00.000-04:00

1- D. is in DC and well. Called twice today, going to see the Nat's play the Braves tonight.
2- I fly home Th. night, for Mothers Day weekend.
3- Prayers for my Brother, a fender bender is complicating his life as he wraps up in Moz. to come back to the US.
4- Got extended at RayJay through August (normal, in 3 month chunks).

This week in Fla.

2010-04-29T23:05:00.000-04:00

Work is better and better - plenty of work, and plenty of work done. Weather is good - and the camper lock finally arrived and I installed it today.

Feeling surprisingly ok about the 'dis' from the hospital - Still can't figure it out. Granted, it could be hubris, or a just my giant blind spot - but in my industry, I've never been someone you'd avoid to have on your team. RayJay sends out good vibes - but still no interview yet. And the lead in Minn. is internally debating an offer (I told them I'd need some relo).

One more week - and I'm home again. Feeling better at work, but lonelier elsewhere... Wish I could find a way to get the boys down for their birthdays, but at best it'd be $220 apiece...Plan on being home for 7,8 and 9. Probably cannot be home for the weekend of the 15th - which would be the guys from work going camping. Then home for 21,22 and 23 - Mike and Jaimee's wedding - and celebrate 3 different birthdays! Then we'd need to decide - Memorial Weekend? or Scout Show?

Home - for Interview

2010-04-23T18:42:00.000-04:00

Well, that was distressing. Flew home early (Wed. PM) for yet another all day interview in West Hartford. Spent the day yesterday, walking out with a quasi-positive vibe. On the Plus side, the job lead in Minn. called to gauge my interest in relocating... But it was to be - got the call from the HH this afternoon, it was felt I was not a "cultural fit" for the position and no I can't imagine where I wouldn't have fit in.

I took C. to get her cell replaced, because she couldn't remember my cell account security question "1st elementary school". Then filling in as Den Leader - so she can drive her French Exchange Students back to the shuttle to JFK. Tomorrow, may go out and see the Wagons West, at Brody Park.

Returning to Fl. on Sunday looms, now. But there are other irons in the fire, in Fla and in Minn. But oh, would that be complicated and expensive, and painful...But right now, I don't see any other Ct. opportunities.

Mid April

2010-04-11T22:25:00.000-04:00

Can now check off "Seeing Alligators in the wild"

Went for a walk - checked out the park, the one the guys went Frisbee Golfing when they were down here. Boy - does it make me realize that I still have a long way to go until I get home. Two weeks. Monday, I have the COH for 468, and next weekend a friend from work invited me up to his F-I-L's Island w/cabin, gun range, and zip line. Would be better bringing my guys...

Update news - 2nd interview in Hartford is Thursday 4/22 - So I'm missing 2 days of work plus the plane ticket...Shows I'm serious right? And I had a screening call/interview from a company in St. Paul - I know God loves irony, but really?

C. has her exchange students coming over this week - I hope they are not disappointed by our place, and our resounding lack of French.

Safe trip wishes to Bunga on her trip to Ok. this Wed. And Joyous Laps to Umpa - and his (brand new) tractor...

Easter - Good to be home

2010-04-03T23:20:00.000-04:00

Went to Bristol, to the closest Disc (Frisbee) Golf course - The boys are all improved since the last time we played, in Minn. The course was up and down hills, across a brook (numerous times) all over. I would say we'd be back, we don't mind mud, but the broken glass was disconcerting. Realized D. had a summit seekers reunion tonight, last minute- grabbed the guitar and surprise, S. came along! But he didn't want to stay...By the time we got to Bakerville the singing was over - we sang "Alle-alle-oxen free" Then on my way out I slipped into the sanctuary, and felt sad, a bit ashamed that I wasn't standing in, in it's time of need, that I should be there to help fix whatever it is. But that's not fair - as a family man, I need to see their needs met.

When D. called I drove back - spoke to Pastor George, Sandy and Scott... They also felt my wish that S. would've felt like staying. And out in the parking lot afterward, Scott and I were talking (We've spent SO Much time over the years, VB, TD..) in parking lots... And pastor George came out and said "Do you guys know where home is?" OW!
I said "Here! and if we talk about it any more, I'll start crying"

But I did anyway - Scott gave me a minute, he as much as anyone can understand how home that is...

Easter's coming...

2010-03-28T23:11:00.000-04:00

2nd Interview is coming - now not until at least 4/22. I fly home this Thursday night for the weekend.

Church was odd this morning, It was about the triumphant entry into Jerusalem - so in theory it was about the Son of Man vs. Returning King theme, but was so poorly executed I couldn't figure out where he was intending to go. As worship goes, a good team - But I think preaching has devolved, so often to the same 20 themes. I dunno, I heard a sermon about study the other day, it didn't cover half the points of the Study rollo outline, or the gold standard - Pastor George's legal sheet of study and discipline.

Work is fine - my code went into production Friday night, no hitches (they had my #).

Busy Friday

2010-03-19T22:44:00.000-04:00

Had a 6+ hour interview, it's a small Tandem shop that uses basically as a platform for one large app. The job wouldn't really be developement anymore, but installing patches, and fixes (just like Target and ACI) - debugging and ad'hoc reporting. Seems VERY doable. Interviews went well - but at the end was told, after the job is posted, I'd need to actually apply and re-interview. Thought I nailed it - but have doubts that I somehow scr*wed the pooch at the end and that would be why they'd need to see me all over again. They've got the leverage, they say jump, I'll say "how high?" Wondering how I messed this up - It would be great, nice people, good salary and benefits (yea, health ins again).

D. had a good time as crew for the Torrington Middle School production of "Jr. High School Musical" Two more show to go, and a jr. high after party...

N. had his Blue and Gold tonight - I felt so useless, at something we did together for so long. So many little things that we'd tried and tweaked and improved over the years - All starting that stuff over again. But Cub Scouts never has much of an institutional memory since so many leader are in for 4-5 years and gone. The sense that Day Camp was gone was very poinent and in the air - people who've gone to Camp School, forms, the sales pitch - all sorts of stuff that that made up something I loved doing.

I'm working so hard not to imagine this job, and a parts of my life that it would give back to me.

A busy, non-sucky (might be too good to be true) day

2010-03-17T23:10:00.000-04:00

Remembering Great Nanna and Aunt Ethel on their birthdays.
Marking a year away from home, and Nanna being gone a year.

Interview (Fulltime, in CT) on Friday - Prayers everyone! Gotta find my suit/tie.

Work is busy, the environment is such an improvement over my last gig. Flying home tomorrow (very early) for a long weekend. Someone saw my for sale sign in the camper, and left a # - wouldn't that be a blessing.

Supplement...

2010-02-03T22:59:00.000-05:00

This wasn't to make people feel sorry for me - "All things work together for good..." Because I am called for His purpose. It's just hope is hard to see sometimes - and I needed to put the thoughts on electric paper...

Hmm - a man going on a long trip. He called together his servants and entrusted his money to them while he was gone

2010-02-03T20:58:00.000-05:00

I’ve been gone, and coming home when I can –for nearly a year at this time. And it still hurts amazingly bad, I suppose I’d feel guilty if it didn’t. The boys and Logan greet me affectionately and happily, and it is so important for me, the puzzle piece, to feel I fit back into my puzzle.

I do need to do more to connect with what’s left of my friends/family. For me it’s been more like 4 years since I’ve seen some people, some parts of my life I loved doing – that are gone, or broken or changed beyond recognition. In the last year I’ve lost so many family members, and have started my thoughts for Lorance now.

And I have tried to send the family to praise fellowship – for the boys needs to be met, even as I feel guilty over the continued spiral of my church home. I got called a few weeks ago about Scout Sunday at BUMC – and realized at this point there are no other scouts there. Changing feels weird - C. so needs to find her worker bee role in church, that may take time in a new place, but she has an actual God-given talent, that might be enough to start with.

But the real question on my mind is how often I feel like the ‘Hard man in the talent parable’ in Matt 25:14-30 the guy who leaves his people with varying amounts to care for and invest while he’s gone – I return from my journey and expect family life to continue, home to be homier, rooms to be more setup, things to be painted, or cleaned – The home progressing, and awaiting it’s masters arrival. There are few things more frustrating than cleaning, and searching for bills first thing I get home. It is so hard to feel I sacrifice, living alone, in the camper and feel no one is taking advantage of being home – of reconnecting with friends, and family, church life, scouts (4^th) all of it.

Tough to live in the moment, when things need to be done - and resentment doesn't help. One more thing to give back to God every morning...

News...

2010-02-02T21:21:00.000-05:00

1 - It's a miserable week, Lorance's cancer has progressed and he seems to be prepared for the next stage of life. It was great to see him (He came out to CT. last time I was home) - even got together at the chinese buffet as I left for Fl.

2 - I will be home (through White Plains) Friday night late. T3 is hanging out at First Cong. Saturday and has Scout Sunday at Center Congregational. T4 isn't doing anything I think.

3 - The family plans on spending the last week in July in Willaimsburg, Va. at Dawn's timeshare - from there we will go to Jambo for a day or two.

4 - Work is ok.

5 - I took Commissioner Training down here last week, a gung ho bunch of older Scouters - And I was not inspired by the whole quietly inspect unit's and fill out forms. If you'd have asked me five years ago, I'd have thought the commish's were a club for the older scouters - helping with camp-o-ree's and other events. I have been assigned a Troop and Pack (and maybe crew) at the Methodist church I've been to twice. Maybe it will feel more innocuous as I do it.

A Weekend Home

2010-01-24T21:38:00.001-05:00

Arrived Friday noontime - Had lunch with Tuan, his new fiancee and her daughter. Bunga is charmed by the 3 'almost 4' year old. Got my license in Ct. - but they wouldn't carry over my motorcycle endorsement.

Dropped S. for a campover at Camp Barbour with the Troop - and my dog took off - I spent an hour walking the streets, watching backyard motion sensors go off, finally he surrendered. Had a good lunch Saturday with M & J - It was good to see them together, and we learned D'Angelos is closing this weekend. Visited the troop in Norfolk, lots of burning, Men have a nice looking new tent.

Went to Praise Fellowship, it was comfortable - so many familiar faces, But hearing Swiggys voice in my own - made me dusty.... We've sung together for so long, so many times...

Prayers for Tuan's Dad - Diep, creator of the skyball serve, as he reaches the end of his struggle with ALS.

Update...

2010-01-18T19:30:00.001-05:00

So work has changed, in that I was given more work since the project I was hired to work on hasn't really started. I caught up with J. Boyington by phone, He sounds (as always) the same. I teased him about his baloney and apple butter sandwiches. Spoke to Kevin and Cami as well this weekend - It was good to hear from them, and talk about seeing them this summer.

I fly home to Ct. this weekend and bummer - Dr. B will be opening his Condo in SC the whole time I'm home. S. will be camping a Barbour this weekend as well. I spoke to the local Boy Scout District this week and will be taking the commissioners class in a couple of weeks. I went to St. Paul's Methodist Church last Sunday, meant to try the contemporary service, and went to the traditional service - I will try again in two weeks.

Christmas

2009-12-30T18:33:00.000-05:00

It was good. Beachers in St. Augustine was nice, could see the ocean right out the windows, opened Christmas presents under my lame palm Christmas tree in my parents room – got some books. Setup the Wii in my bedroom at the hotel – and we sang and played lego rock band on our new guitar hero band set for hours. Then played sports resort – mostly watching the boys fly around and around the island ( a little like the sortie of pelicans that pass the balcony ever hour or so). Boys jumped in the heated pool – and then we took the Durango out on the beach – No one told N. that the ocean was cold so he played in it for probably 45 minutes, amazing. Dinner was at a snooty restaurant down the shore at a nice country club, good food – N. had chicken tenders there as well.

Saturday we walked through old St. Augustine – parking was a pain, but it was cute cobblestoned streets, little shops – we tried alligator tail, and toured the castle, then rode the Ripley train trough town. It was chilly and when we got close to the minigolf place (free with train tix!) we jumped off and played a round S. started with a hole in one and N. was winning after the first nine holes – but I stormed back to be the gracious winner. We eat at Sonny’s BBQ which was ok, S. liked it, it was all you could eat. Back to the rooms to pack the cars.

Bunga and Umpa also provided a day at one of the theme parks – and I debated where to go for a while. Busch Gardens was closest to our final destination Tampa/Largo – but we’d need to drive 4 hours to reach it the try and get our money’s worth from tickets – We looked for someplace where we could see alligators, maybe a airboat ride or Orlando. It was decided to go back to the Magic Kingdom – since N. didn’t remember it and we would be sure to hit the high points since we knew our way around. It was a crowded, and wet day, but we arrived (steamship) to see the 11:00 parade, then Swiss Family Robinsons tree house – the went through the new pirates of the Caribbean ride. Lunch in Pecos Bills was a fiasco , not enough tables. We then wandered toward tomorrowland – which is where we ended our day around 8pm. Dropped my parents at the hotel near the airport and then off to the camper.

Christmas Travels

2009-12-22T23:18:00.000-05:00

C. and the boys are in Pa. step one of their trip south. Bunga and Umpa arrive tomorrow night, and we all gather in St. Augustine Thursday afternoon. Presents are wrapped, Chex mix (Dad Style) is made (and half eaten).

Work is fine - taking forever to get the project going, I have some busywork which is better than sitting trying to look busy.

Potential visit

2009-12-08T23:43:00.001-05:00

Started Christmas shopping today- figuring it's easy to hide things 1300 miles away. Ironically I discovered my flights to Ct. for either 12/10 or 12/17 - would be over $300. But if reversed, C. could get down here for like $230... Now it's a matter of figuring out if we can get coverage for Logan, S. will be at Camp Workcoeman - but the boys would need someone to get them off to school Monday and Tuesday...

We'll see.

Back to Florida

2009-11-30T11:43:00.000-05:00

Thanksgiving is over - Went to C.'s family for Thanksgiving. It's interesting how that dynamic has changed over the last 25 years, It was the cousin's kids (pre teen) at first, now those three have about 8 kids between them (blended families). Saturday, instead of going out to Winsted (no power) - my parents came here, with turkey and ham, it was a good day, although I didn't find Kevin online. C. went to her 25th reunion at the Elks in the evening, she had a good time - I spent the evening with the boys. Church was ok on Sunday, the god thing is it does feel like home - and I saw the betrothed Jaimee and Mike! Scooter came over and hung out in the afternoon - and when I dropped of D. for his MYF thanksgiving dinner, went out with Scott, and was reminded that although we're peers, his grandpa stuff is something I'm glad not to deal with yet!

Going to stop and get a tooth looked at, and then grandma will drive me to the airport.

Holiday News

2009-11-22T11:01:00.001-05:00

1 - Thanksgiving, I leave Wed. for home, will be in town through Monday. C. has us going to Wallyworld for Thanksgiving day, Ugh. Then she has her 25th HS Reunion Saturday, I'm going to spend the day/evening with my parents for Thanksgiving instead.

2 - Christmas, My family is driving down, and my parents are flying down. We will spend the holiday in St. Augustine at a hotel on the beach. Flights home were expensive, and I couldn't afford to miss the 3 days of work, so everyone is adjusting and coming down here.

3 - Windy today, getting bombed by acorns on the roof of the camper all day/night. Yes - It's sunny, I'm in shorts and flip flops.

Update...

2009-11-17T22:21:00.000-05:00

I've been working now for a week in Tampa/St. Pete - I live in the camper in Vacation Village in Largo. I will go back to CT. next Wednesday, thru Monday for Thanksgiving.

Been talking over plans for Christmas - realizing that the flights for that week are ridiculous, and I'd only work basically only 3 days out of a pay period. So I suggested that they come down here, so we can spend more time together. We are working toward possibly spending Christmas in St. Augustine - then back to the camper so I can work, then someplace else, for the 1st, and then they could drive north from there.

First Day

2009-11-09T21:25:00.000-05:00

Made the trip from Ct. made it down to Fredrick Del. - where coincidentally, C. thought we could stop for the night. Borrowed my friends dolly (car dolly) to tow the mazda behind the camper. One of the straps that ties the wheels down went. But I was in front of an autoparts store and bought a tow strap, that I was able to use to fix the trailer.

Drove from Fredrick, Del. to Jacksonville, Fl. and slept in a Walmart parking lot. Made it to the campground by 2 the next day. Parked the camper, went shopping.

Started work this morning - have a cube, 4th floor of tower 1. Seems ok, company structured a little better than my previous employer. Big shop too.

C. is here 'till Wed. lunchtime. May see the beach tomorrow.

Goodbye, Wisconsin

2009-10-31T01:32:00.000-04:00

Umpa arrived, one hour late - and I took him to the boy's favorite store, American Science and Surplus, then checked in and went to Texas Roadhouse. I cann't remember the last good steak I had, it is not something you order when trying (slightly) to be frugal.
Our intent is to be on the road around 8 am. That puts us in Cleveland around 3 pm or so. And then 3 hours more and we hole up near State College. Maybe I'll get a chance to see (or have breakfast) with me Nieces and Nephew.

Then it's home by 3 in the afternoon.

Last Day

2009-10-29T22:03:00.000-04:00

Wrote the goodbye email - brought cookies. My friends took me out for chinese food, it turns out that Diane (sat behind me for a while) is leaving as well - has an opportunity to work from home, sounds like a great deal for her, nearer her horses.

Prayers...

2009-10-27T00:53:00.000-04:00

for Joe Green - a good scout - http://www.registercitizen.com/articles/2009/10/03/news/doc4ac6c8b2b8ab4818632802.txt

This week's tasks...

2009-10-26T01:12:00.001-04:00

1) Get decent trailer - the one at Fleet Farm was cheap, and HD and Menards don't carry any in stock.
2) Pack stuff
3) Get C. a plane ride home from TPA --> to the New England (<> $110)
4) Look at rides for Thanksgiving...
5) Book hotel room near State College for Sat-Sunday ($85) about 10 hours out.
6) T.'s house is around 7 hours out. Probably stop for a snack.
7) Already booked Umpa's room here...

8) plan out trip south
9) Setup RV
10) Register all vehicles...When in CT.

Goodbyes..

2009-10-24T00:05:00.000-04:00

I started saying goodbyes today - I have a week to go, but one of my friends from work is off all next week. Will pick up trailer tomorrow and screw in the deck.

Florida News...

2009-10-22T23:26:00.000-04:00

So few opportunities - A contract pops up at Raymond James in Tampa/St. Pete 6 months ok rate. They put in my resume Thursday night - and respond Tuesday, for an interview Thursday morning - got an offer today to start 11/2. Last day in Wisconsin is 10/30 - and umpa is flying in to drive with me next week.

I accepted, and asked if I could start later in the month, they compromised on the 9th. Thinking about driving the RV down there and living in it. It would be cheaper, and might be funner.

Rcv'd much encouragement from FB - reminding me what the priority is. God this sucks... More news to follow as I figure out the short term agenda. At the moment thinking of driving to CT - to spend the week there - and then RV and car to Fl. maybe with DS - and have her fly back to CT (Umpa's plan). We'd miss wedding in NY - but would meet other goals. So 20 years later we'd retrace half our honeymoon route...

Done in Wisc.

2009-10-07T21:55:00.000-04:00

Will not be extended again - met with the resource manager, my last day is 10/30 - So I'm off looking for more work. If there is a FT position for my DS, then I look for anything in Ct. Otherwise it's Tandem/NonStop work, almost anywhere.

What a day...

2009-10-07T21:12:00.000-04:00

Went home for my birthday - Caught a "free" as in lunch plane flight from my friends for the weekend. Didn't count on Chicago Friday traffic, left Menonomee Falls at 4:15, to drive 79 miles - and was 6 miles from O'Hare at 6:00 but did get parked until after 7, and after the tram, the TSA and the length of the terminal - I arrived at my gate to find the door closed (but I have 2 minutes, I whined). But they'd given my seat to standby people. Next flight, 9:15 Saturday morning. Distressed passenger rate for a room at the Holiday Inn $65. Parking at the airport is $16 a day - so once my head cleared - I figured I'd be better off at Country Inn and Suites in Bensonville - the hotel we used when we flew out for Nanna's funeral in March. Drove over there, and used thier shuttle to get back and forth.
Weekend was fine, Dinner one night at Bunga and Umpa's - marked the end of summer by taking off the ragtop of the Jeep, and helped a little emptying the garage... Fixed the shower at the house, went to town hall to check on the property lines. The birthday was fine, went to Round Table, had cake - so it was good.

Big fright though that nite, N. work up gasping and coughing at 2 - sounding a little like me when I had Whooping cough a while back. Very frightening, C. took him off the the ER - It was a very long 15 minutes, until they called. They were back at 4 (I'm sure because she has lent out her house key). He's much better, diagnosed with Croup (He seems a little old for it). I blame the boys film project on Sunday that meant they were outside in the rain or in the basement filming a reenactment of one of the Star Wars episodes...

Bye Ellen - Welcome home...

2009-09-24T22:52:00.000-04:00

My friend Ellen is returning to Ct. having completed her time at Mayo. Mixed feelings for her, to return to her family, but to start looking for more work.

The time home was good - Visiting the Scoutguys who where teaching the district youth leadership course was great, I felt I belonged again. Good to see my family - and fix that dumb toilet. My non paying renters had replaced the gasket under the tank with silicone caulk, which flaked into the little holes around the rim - which left too little flow to do the job.

Work is ok, no word on any sort of extension. No word on any other leads at this time. Umpa is still taking care of the sale of the camper. I will be home the weekend of 10/2

Long Weekend...

2009-09-03T22:50:00.000-04:00

Plane Trip Friday, 6-10 and return Tuesday afternoon. When work seems to be less stressful - the rest gets worse. On the plus side, I negotiated a raise this week. Will be nice when it appears on a paycheck. Found out my housing offers a monthly rate, should save 2-400 a month...

But this too will pass.

Prayers for Dan B. as well - in the hospital for appendicitis, I think.

Can you go home again?

2009-08-30T23:28:00.000-04:00

Went back to Elk River (ER!) this weekend - to catch up with three families (ok, 4). Stayed with my friends the Millers (who plan a trip east, having lived in Ct. for a time) - Nice to see and wrestle thier four kids - and like home the "Wizards of Waverly Place" seemed to be on the whole time! It was nice to sit up in the evening and talk, and Saturday during the day I ran errands. Shades of my Mom - I got my haircut when I made the trip "home" Like she used to on trips down from Vt. to Ct.

I visited with the Manzi's, which was neat - the girls looked great, and PJ has even more hope than I do, in spite of the fact he's been completely out of work since we got laid off. I will be praying for a productive second interview for him and his wife this week.

Then I drove by the house and dropped of the garage door opener - I guess they moved in Friday night, but weren't around. It looked fine.

Stopped to see the Kaluza's but they were busy, John is going to post is Boundary waters trip photos soon. One of the things I wanted to do in Minn. that we never got to do.

Spent the evening with the Hewitts - It was great, the twins and K. talked nonstop for the first 45 minutes. It was a great evening, BBQ ribs, and Rich and Bert.

Then back to Millers, then to ERUMC - but the pastor was out of town, It was good to worship, I figure it's the second church service I've attended since early June.

Westward Bound.

2009-08-27T00:48:00.000-04:00

Friday afternoon I will drive back to Elk River, for the weekend - Not just to pick up presents for Nate either. Will be staying with the Millers, and spend Saturday afternoon with the Hewetts.

The Elk River house closed as well. It sold short, someone got a great deal.

Local Tandem Job

2009-08-23T23:41:00.000-04:00

Since my friend Rick had surgery, I've been figuring they'd need another programmer/analyst at St. Vincents in Bridgeport. As vulturish as it seems, they have like, three Nasdaq-ians there, and it's in Connecticut, not Wisconsin! I just hoped for a heads up - But instead I looked up another NASDAQian - co-worker and he starts in September at St. Vincents Hospital.

I don't know how I didn't see the opportunity, and feel like like I missed something rare, that could let me be home.

Work...

2009-08-23T12:59:00.000-04:00

I realized I've spent over one year since October of 2006 living in a hotel. How do you even pretend to be a good involved parent from there? Or Scouter? Or maintain your accountability, and involvement in a church life?

RV Camper - Time for it to go...

2009-08-23T01:01:00.001-04:00

2002 SHASTA 29' MOTORHOME

This 2002 Shasta Freeport 250 Class ‘C’ RV is built on a Ford F-350 chassis, and powered by a workhorse Triton V-10 gas engine, with pulling capacity to spare.

The unit sleeps 6 with a rear Queen walk-around bed, and lots of storage. The A/C was new in 08’ and all the factory equipment is in good working order.

Mileage is 86,700+ and overall condition is very good. Motor is sound and well maintained.

Original cost of this unit is over $73,000, and current NADA lists $21,000-26,000 as low and average retail.

Asking price is $19,500.00 for this very solid RV with lots of good times left.

Call Ken @860-689-3867

Homeward bound...August

2009-08-13T20:02:00.000-04:00

Tomorrow, a coworker will drop me at the airport, I'll be home until Tuesday afternoon. C. has decided she needs to chaperone the exchange students to NY - So I will be going with N. to CW Day Camp, it will be strange to to be back, but without a role.

Got a call from my resource manager today - asking why I thought I was out as of the end of the month. Jeez - because I was told there was only work for me until the end of August, It's why U. was flying out to tag team drive my car (with a trailer holding bike) back to Ct. So no, I must have misheard, my last day will still be end of October.

EOK plans

2009-08-06T22:42:00.000-04:00

Need to get to Toms Trailers and pick up one before the end of the month. Umpa called - and will pick up a ticket and be here to drive home.

August

2009-08-05T00:28:00.000-04:00

1) Kevin turns 40 this month!
2) Back in Menonomee Falls for one more month. Now looking/worrying for what's next. Another contract? Where will it be? How long, and what would the dynamics of my house be when I returned.
3) Planning for the ride back to Ct. in a couple of weeks. Probably buying a trailer to bring home the motorcycle, cheaper then renting a trailer.
4) Thinking about one more trip to ER, before I drive home.
5) Prayers are still for C. and that she'd finally find her opportunity.
6) C. has chosen to take in TWO (2!) French exchange students for the next 3 weeks. American cultural immersion, and they'll get to go to CW day camp.

Time in Wisconsin

2009-07-28T22:42:00.000-04:00

Got a call from my resource manager ('cuz we're not people, we're resources). My original last day (End of August) is back on. I was extended, briefly, until Halloween - but when my project assignments changed... This still may change again - if more project managers need me prior to Sept. 1.

It's good to know.

According to S. - I don't update enough

2009-07-26T22:28:00.000-04:00

D. - Went on Summit Seekers, hiked Mt. Washington, learned Easy Pedaler songs.

S. - Another week at Camp, cut his left index (to get out of KP?), ER patched with Durabond. Staff is going to Mets game next Saturday.

N. - is man about house. Rode a horse and buggy with Bunga. Needs to make a plan for her room.

Troop 3 starts their week at CW next Saturday (D. included).

In town Friday night - Tuesday afternoon.

Back to Wisconsin

2009-07-20T23:11:00.000-04:00

Got much done around the house. My Dad's been amazing, It was great to work with Lorance for a while (glazing windows). Will reach out to Mark ( for the boys sake, and for Lorance's) For next trip.

Will add more later...

Homeward bound...

2009-07-17T02:06:00.000-04:00

Leaving Wisc. in 5 hours. Will be in Ct. until Tuesday noon. Got unpacking to do, things to fix, squatters garbage to get cleaned.

Me and my little, cuddly wolfpack

New Year update...

Power Returns

the year Halloween got eaten by Christmas

And Afterword...

Webeloree

Eagle Weekend

N. Starting Fall Soccer

New Job - Starting...

N. Birthday

New Job

Great News...

Goodbyes...

Home!

Home for the weekend.

Update

Almost July

One more week - until home.

A long weekend...

A long stretch

Approaching April fools....

Almost St. Patricks

a snowy weekend in Col.

Presidents Day

Stage V - another first day

Stage IVb - Trip redux

Stage IVa - Trip Redux

Stage III - off to Colorado.

Stage IIa - In Ct.

Stage II - In Ct.

Stage 1 - Out of Florida

MLK Update

MLK

New Year, New News...

Quick one

Home Mid-month..

Thanksgiving...

Back in Florida

Camporee

21

Cindy Week, Part IV

Cindy Week, Part III - Cozumel

Cindy Week, Part II

Cindy Week

The RV

Work Related.

Happy Birthday, Nate!

New Family Members...

-Tuan N Duong- Is so BLESSED. Our twins are so strong and totally adorable. Here is the lowdown. Olivia Ann Duong born @3:20 8-31-10 4lbs 14 oz 19.2" long.Evan Diep Duong born @3:25 8-31-10 4lbs 12 oz 18.6" long.

Mother and Big Sister are well as well...Bunga is out there in Ohio.

This week in Fl.

A Week of Company

Vacation! Day Two and Three

Vacation! Day one Jambo.

Only one week this time...

Home

Umpa's Birthday and other stuff

Yea, Me!

Memorial Day

17 and 14

Cold in Ct.

May Day

This week in Fla.

Home - for Interview

Mid April

Easter - Good to be home

Easter's coming...

Busy Friday

A busy, non-sucky (might be too good to be true) day

Supplement...

Hmm - a man going on a long trip. He called together his servants and entrusted his money to them while he was gone

News...

A Weekend Home

Update...

Christmas

Christmas Travels

Potential visit

Back to Florida

Holiday News

Update...

-Tuan N Duong- Is so BLESSED. Our twins are so strong and totally adorable. Here is the lowdown.
Olivia Ann Duong born @3:20 8-31-10 4lbs 14 oz 19.2" long.
Evan Diep Duong born @3:25 8-31-10 4lbs 12 oz 18.6" long.